We Really ARE All Connected

In my last post, I wrote about how we’re bombarded daily with situations that demand we hurry up, do this, get that, OR ELSE! Ironically, we’re connected in facing these overwhelming phenomena that seem to pull as further and further apart.

We’re also connected by our shared hopes and desires. We all want to be loved and respected. Most of us hope to contribute significantly to those around us. These would be easier to accomplish if we invested the time to get acquainted with one  another, one person at a time. Hatred and fear come from failure to recognize the common goals we share, and to value the talents that lie within each individual.

More concretely, we are connected by the air we breathe, the water we drink, and the ground we walk on. We share one, relatively small planet, and the borders we recognize and defend are mostly imaginary. There is no American air, or Chinese water, for example. Air and water move and intermingle all around the Earth, and...

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No One Can Be You But You - And Don't You Forget It!

Each of us has a unique set of fingerprints and a unique DNA helix. Our talents are distinctive. The unique combination of what interests and intrigues us is our alone. We begin life with open hearts and minds, receptive to new thoughts, ideas, and experiences. We discover and delight in concepts like joy, love, freedom to investigate and learn, laughter, and just plain fun.

Far too soon, we’re introduced to fear, misunderstanding, and chaos. The outside world wants our attention, and it uses whatever means are most effective. The main reason is to get us in the habit of acquiring “stuff” - stuff like jobs, houses, cars, toys, and even social status. In our rush to get all the things we think we want and need, our talents become woven into the fabric of acquisition and dust. Our genuine interests become overshadowed by thing outside ourselves, such as the expectations of family, friends, and peers who are also desperate to acquire “stuff.”

Returning to...

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Power and Presence

It’s intangible. You can’t see it, touch it, or smell it, yet you know it’s there. Always. Some people call it a Higher Power. I grew up calling it Holy Spirit. Call it what you will, believe it to be masculine, feminine, a combination of both - no matter. Your relationship with Spirit is unique. This gently powerful presence lights your path and guides each step if you allow it. All it takes is your attention and your willing participation.

In each moment lies an opportunity, if you choose to accept it. Acknowledge the presence, be still enough to hear that voiceless message…then choose. Follow it or ignore it. Continue the adventure, or ignore its direction and remain trapped in your imaginary box of safety.

If Spirit is intangible, how will you recognize its presence, its guidance? You might get an intuition or gut feeling about a situation. At a crossroads, one fork may seem brighter than the other. You may become aware of little synchronicities as you...

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Your Spiritual Journey

In my last post, I talked about your human journey, and how a fresh look at the stories of your life can reveal hidden possibilities. You may already have discovered you are simultaneously traveling a second, spiritual journey. This isn’t about being religious. It’s not something you do, but something you are. The human and spiritual paths don’t so much run parallel to each other as they interweave together into one, multidimensional track. Looking at your life stories from this larger perspective can unveil even more amazing opportunities for freedom, creativity, and transformation.

That said, the spiritual journey can be subtle. It takes practice to recognize how it manifests in your daily life. The spiritual journey deals more with feelings than with tangible things. Gut feelings, Intuition, seeming happenstances are examples of what I’m talking about. For example, your friend answers, “Fine,” when you ask “How are you?” Your gut...

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Your Own Human Journey

You’ve been aware of your human journey for pretty much your whole life. You know who that person is in the mirror, based on where you’ve been and what you’ve done. If someone asked, you could sum up who you are in a few quick sentences. “I’m a retired engineer, a grandfather, and at Christmas I play Santa at the mall.” Or, “I’m a single mom who works two jobs and doesn’t have time to be creative.” You’ve “caught the little fox and put him in a box,” like in the nursery rhyme, but will you “let him go”? Watch out! That box of labels can turn into a trap. Are you caught in a self-imposed trap you’d love to get out of but aren’t sure how? There are lots of ways, if you’re serious about your freedom. One key can be found within the stories of your life.

I spent a lot of years regretting turns my life had taken, keeping me from being the college professor I “shoulda...

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Tech Support = Magic

Uncategorized Jun 01, 2017

Our tech support person is hard at work on the slide deck and audio portion of the workshop. Looking good. Well maybe I'm prejudiced, but I still think it's looking good. There's four major points covered in this course, and a licensed counselor friend likens it to narrative therapy which he uses in his practice. I'll be posting more about this next week.

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Power of Story for Peace

In today’s world, everyone is promoting story – tell your story, tell your story – for better customer relations, better communities, better working conditions – the list goes on.

Think about it! If we all REALLY shared our stories, openly and honestly, within the proper circumstances, and with open minds, what a wonderful world it could be. If I knew you were hungry, I could do something about it. If you knew I was reeling from the loss of someone I loved, you might be able to help me find a way to cope.

If you were to say, “I believe this about that,” could we talk about your belief? It might give me a new way of seeing the world. Or it might open your eyes to a new, more satisfying solution.

And if we talked to each other individually about a situation, instead of just listening to someone else’s take on it, wouldn’t truth allow love into the picture, and love allow empathy to work its magic?

Ah! The power of story as a basis for...

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Choose Who Writes Your Story

choices empowerment story May 02, 2017

Story! Your story. My story. No two alike. We might share similar incidents that create interesting conversations, but experience very different outcomes. Why? Because we each react differently to similar stimuli. And why is that? Because of all we’ve experienced prior to encountering the new circumstance.

In looking back on our stories, examining our repeated stimuli/reaction scenarios can provide guidance for our future. Do we always react the same way to the same stimuli? Do we have to? Or is there even a choice?

Unlocking the power of story is easy or hard, whichever you choose. Typically it’s easy when the story is somebody else’s. It’s harder when it’s our own. We tend to cling to the idea that “That’s the way it is with me. It’s just who I am.” But is it? Would someone else look at you and your situation and think, “It’s so obvious! All you have to do is …!” But it’s hard to accept that...

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Living History: Sharing Our Stories

Just back from a fantastic storytelling weekend in Kentucky.

The featured tellers seemed to center on family stories about living in Eastern Kentucky, Tennessee, Virginia, and West Virginia. Coal mining was the occupation most men had, and the tellers shared stories of the hardships associated with those jobs.

The thing that most fascinated me was the personal relationships these tellers had with their grandparents, great aunts and uncles, and even great-grandparents. They told of mine disasters, of things that knit these people together with other families in the counties of eastern Kentucky and West Virginia. They spoke of educational opportunities or lack thereof. They talked of tobacco crops and state fairs and cold winter days.

I was reminded of what David Engleman calls the three deaths: first, when the body ceases to function; second, when the body is consigned to the grave; and third, when your name is spoken for the last time. As we closed the weekend, we paid tribute to a...

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Moving the Target

Until I moved to a house on the edge of a golf course, I hadn’t realized that the holes on the greens are moved every day. I discovered this while sitting on my back deck, watching one of the workers moving a hole about a foot from its previous location. He changed the flag from white to red, signifying that it was closer to the front of the green.

Golfers don’t seem to be bothered by the constant moving of the hole. In fact, it seems to lend more challenge to the game. If you play regularly each day provides a different set of circumstances.

In life, we also find our goals shifting regularly. Just when we think we have the rules memorized, the target located, the paradigm defined – something changes. We come up with a list of “what if’s” and “if only’s” The old coulda, woulda, shoulda routine! It’s easy to blame life, or some other person, or anything at all besides ourselves. Not that we should blame ourselves for the...

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