Two guys walk into a coffee shop together . . .
If there is a group of guys socializing somewhere and one enters the conversation with “Two guys walk into…” chances are somebody else will jump in as soon as the first story is done with another story of which they were reminded. And a third guy will add to the list. . . I guess girls do it too.
Fact is, it’s a way to connect to one another. The group of two or more follows a common thread resulting in entertainment, encouragement, support, or sympathy.
For a point, be it for a few minutes, a few hours, weeks or years, two or more people join without regard for rules, criticism, or judgment.
Gee! If only . . .
Picture an airplane taking off with one of those smoke bombs attached to its wing. The result will be a smooth curve going from the starting point on the ground upward slowly until the bomb runs out of smoke. Life’s curve is generally expected to look like that. You start at birth, learn a lot of things, graduate, get a job, get married, have a family, get active in the community or a church. Eventually you retire and enjoy the grandkids. It’s expected to be a gently rising curve from birth to death.
But my friend David says he never learned a thing from the gentle upward sweep of life’s curve. He learned when the curve suddenly started straight downward. Some people think of that as failure. Some look at it as a learning experience. Thomas Edison was once asked about his many failures while trying to create a light bulb. His reply was that he didn’t fail. He learned a thousand ways not to make a light bulb.
So the curve more closely resembles a saw blade. I think of it as “David’s Curve”. The down-drops are the experiences which equip us to help others in similar circumstances. They are times of learning, of testing, of making us into wiser human beings. The way to benefit from those times is to look for the lesson hidden in the experience and not to dwell on the chaos of the moment. For those who insist upon living those trying moments for a lifetime thereafter, life becomes a tragedy. They keep adding the down-drops as if a sum total of them were important. The lessons are. The trauma is not.
Once a person realizes that life is going along without them and that they would be better served to live where life is at this moment, the better off they will be. In fact, they might even realize that they are equipped by their experiences to bless others. Helping others is a sure cure for what ails you.
Now that’s what life should look like!
Well, our first talk for Equipped to Bless: Credentialed by Story went well. We learned what works and what doesn’t. We’ve revised the outline for the next talk, and it will be better. Isn’t that the way life is? You must learn from your mistakes. Life doesn’t care about your credentials! You can be credentialed by your education level. You can be credentialed by your job description. Still, life doesn’t seem to care. As John Lennon said, “Life is what happens while you’re busy making other plans.”
The events of the day, however well planned, are subject to events which ultimately provide the stories of your life. Those events provide filters for your future. For instance, we tried to attend a webinar today, but by the time we jumped through all the hoops necessary to join, we were told it was already full. The program didn’t care that we were previously registered and had tried for fifteen minutes to connect. What kind of filter does that insert in our lives? Will we take the attitude that all webinars are not worth the effort? Or will we have another go at a later date? Filters are important, but you have to be careful that they don’t limit your good. It seems to be part of life’s credentialing. I take it as a good thing. How about you?
So why call this blog “An Educated Guess”?
Well, I have a degree in mechanical engineering technology and many years of learning from the school of hard knocks. What I’ve found from all of this is that if you quote me, you’d better put a date to it. In other words, what I believed to be true last week may have been clarified, changed by circumstance, or proven to be true or false in some way. So, my position on anything today may be nothing more than an educated guess.
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After years of sales experience, I was conned into playing Santa at a local mall. They liked me. I loved the gig. This year will be my 27th year as a natural beard mall Santa. As the stories began to collect, I joined a storytelling guild to learn the craft. I was surprised and delighted to discover the many facets of storytelling. Been doing that now for over 25 years.